Negotiation Strategies That Will Help You Get What You Want Without Being Pushy

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Learn how to prepare for a negotiation, understand the other side's perspective, communicate your needs clearly and assertively, and be open to compromise. Whether you're negotiating a salary, a business deal, or just deciding where to go for dinner these strategies will help you get what you want, without being pushy.

Hello Explearners, welcome back. Did you know that every conversation, every interaction carries within it a hint of negotiation? And I'm not talking about haggling over a price or signing a big business deal.

Every day you negotiate, be it for an extra 10 minutes of sleep, or deciding where to eat for dinner. It's an art, and today we'll introduce to you some negotiation strategies based on real research that can both elevate your personal and professional interactions.

So if you're ready, let's get started.

Imagine a sunlit car dealership, the scent of fresh rubber, and a salesman's practiced smile. You're about to discuss the price of that car that you've been eyeing. The suspense is palpable. Who will make the first move? Research by Galinsky and Mussweiler suggests that initiating a negotiation can actually be advantageous setting the tone for the rest of the conversation.

They termed it anchoring and its impact is far reaching. But there's more. Beyond just numbers, negotiation is a ballet of psychology, strategy, and communication. Ever wondered how some people always seem to get their way? Well today, you're in for a treat. We're dissecting these strategies, peeling back the layers, understanding the why behind every how.

So, if you've ever felt out of depth while discussing terms at work or even trying to decide which movie to watch with friends, hang tight. Today, in this lesson, you'll learn the tools to navigate these waters with confidence and finesse.

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All right, Explearners, so let's roll up our sleeves and get into the trenches of negotiation. Now, I know what you're thinking. Negotiation? That's for CEOs and diplomats, but hang on a sec. Negotiation isn't just about boardrooms and treaties. It's for those day to day exchanges that we often don't even recognize.

Picture this. Your friend wants Italian for dinner, but you're craving sushi. That's negotiation. Your little niece wants to watch cartoons, but you want to catch the game. Yep. That's a negotiation too. Fisher and Ury got it right back in 1981 with their game changer, Getting to Yes, when they showed us negotiation is as common as your morning coffee.

Let's kick things off with preparation. Thompson's 2004 work made a powerful point. To win the game, you've got to prepare for It. So before you jump in, do your homework. What's your game plan? What's theirs likely to be? Walk in their shoes for a bit and anticipate their play.

When you truly understand where the other side is coming from, you've got the edge. 

On to positive attitude. Now, negotiations aren't battlefields. No need for armor and shields. Dr. Daniel Ames 2015 research threw a spotlight on the magic of a cooperative mindset. It's like walking into a room and setting the thermostat to warm. It fosters trust, rapport, and outcomes where everyone feels like they've hit the jackpot.

All right, about active listening. This isn't just nodding while you wait for your turn to speak, no. 

Nichols nailed it in 1957, suggesting that real listening is about diving deep into the other person's words, ensuring you're swimming in the same direction. Rephrase what they say, ask the right questions, and show genuine curiosity. And hey, when you do talk, make it count.

Clear and assertive communication is where it's at. 

Ames and Wazlawek in 2003 highlighted the essence of getting your point across without coming off as overbearing.

Personality and social psychology. Speak your truth, but lace it with respect and rationale. Lastly, remember the negotiation table isn't a seesaw where one goes up and the other one goes down.

Being open to compromise means sometimes meeting in the middle. Sometimes swinging to their side or having them swing to yours. Like Fisher and Ury pointed out, it's not about grabbing the most slices, but about baking a bigger pie together.

There's more juice to squeeze from the negotiation fruit, but for now, chew on these and get ready to finesse your next deal. 

Negotiation is not restricted to boardrooms or diplomatic tables, as we said. It's intertwined with our daily interactions. So, consider your last discussion about dividing household chores, or your recent salary negotiation.

Did you realize how you use these principles without consciously even knowing? This highlights the importance of understanding and refining our negotiation skills. Better negotiators aren't just successful in their professional lives.

But they also navigate personal relationships more effectively. The art of negotiation is about understanding others, communicating effectively, being flexible, and aiming for mutually beneficial solutions. It's not about winning, it's about finding common ground, fostering relationships, and creating a positive impact.

But remember, learning is a journey, not a destination. So let's take a moment to appreciate how far we've come and look forward to becoming even better communicators. 

I hope that you found these insights valuable and are as excited as I am to put them into practice.

Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a lifelong art that is constantly evolving. Keep learning, keep growing, and most importantly, keep Explearning. 

 Now it's your turn, Explearners. Head on over to Explearning Academy. Practice these strategies and become a negotiation ninja.

And remember, you're not just learning, you're Explearning. That's all for me today, Explorers. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe so you won't miss our next exciting exploration into the world of effective communication.

Remember, everyone can talk, but not everyone can communicate. So, keep Explearning, and I'll see you next time.


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