Another week, another live stream. This time, we discuss toxic communication and standing up to bullies.
Bullying is pervasive and exists beyond our fledgling years. We want to equip you with communication tools that will ensure you can have successful social interactions...and part of that includes dealing with people who communicate in toxic ways.
We ground our conversation in Stoic beliefs and tenets from the philosophy of Stoicism, because it allows you to be prepared come what may, and to have the peace of mind that all that we can control is our own behavior (and by extension, our communication).
Some ways of ending toxic communication, exhibited by a bully are the following:
- laugh it off, try to find humor in the hurtful comments, if you're into self-deprecating humor, go for it!
- be kind and show compassion because bullies are people too, and only hurt people hurt people
- hold an intervention, gather the data concerning toxic communication and put a stop to it
- speak to your peers and coworkers about the situation and collect data
- schedule an in-person one-on-one meeting with the bully and get to the bottom of it once and for all
- dissolve your ego: it's not about you, you're not even in the picture; think of it as you are watching a TV show and the bully is a character on that show...you're impervious to their behavior because it has no bearing on your self-worth or real life
- know thyself: you know your self-worth and you know yourself
Take action and surround yourself with a caring support network to help you get through it. Know that the toxic behavior the bully is demonstrating has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them!
Try your best to be rubber and not glue. Don't let the hurtful words or behavior stick to you! They're meaningless and untrue.
Remember, bullying can only affect you if you allow it to. Nobody has the power to take your power away from you, so long as you don't give it away. Take back your power and your control.
If you want to learn more about conflict resolution and mediation, check out these Explearning lessons:
- How to Handle Workplace Conflict
- Respond Don't React: Conflict Resolution Strategies
- How to Not Take things personally
We mentioned Adam Grant's exercise that he does with his students. It's called "Reflected Best Self Exercise" and you should definitely carve out some time to complete it because it'll work wonders on your morale and self-worth.
About the Author and the Explearning Academy:
Mary Daphne is an expert in communication, executive interpersonal skills, and personal development. She is the founder of the Explearning Academy, a platform dedicated to helping individuals enhance their social fluency, boost their careers, and elevate their social game. Through immersive group coaching programs like the Executive Communication Lab and self-guided journeys, participants gain the social superpowers and career catapults they've been searching for. If you're ready to take your negotiation skills to the next level and connect with like-minded individuals, visit academy.explearning.co and explore the various plans available. Join the Explearning Academy community and unlock your full potential.
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