Did you know that in just a few minutes a day, you could boost your charisma and charm everyone you meet? What if I told you that science has actually given us seven habits to do just that? Would you be interested? Of course you would be!
Welcome back to our channel where we make communication and social skills strategies easy and fun for everyone. So, let's dive in and unleash your inner charisma magnet.
Alright, let's get started.
Habit number one, active listening. In a 2012 study by Fassert et al, published in Patient Education and Counseling, it was revealed that effective listening could significantly improve the quality of social interaction. It's more than just hearing what people are saying.
It's about showing genuine interest and understanding. And here's a quick little exercise for you. The next time you're in a conversation, challenge yourself to summarize the other person's points before presenting your own. It's a simple strategy, but it'll show them that you truly care about their input.
Moving on to habit number two, positive body language. Researchers at the University of California found that nonverbal cues make up a massive part of our communication. To boost your charisma, be mindful of your body language, maintain good posture, make good eye contact, and don't forget to smile. Let's do a quick little activity right away.
Stand up or sit up straight, pull your shoulders back, lift your chin slightly, and wear a big, genuine smile. That's the confident and charismatic you.
Habit number three is all about empathy. A study by Cuff et al. in 2016 showcased the crucial role of empathy in successful social interactions. Understand and acknowledge the feelings of others and show them that you care. Try this little exercise next time you talk with someone about a problem that they're facing, try to put yourself in their shoes and express understanding of their feelings. It can be as simple as saying, That sounds really tough. Know that I'm here for you. Habit number four, master the art of storytelling. According to a 2004 study by Heath and Heath, when you share personal stories, people tend to find you more engaging and charismatic.
For practice, try telling a friend a story about your day. Make it engaging with clear characters, conflict, and resolution.
Habit 5 is all about self esteem. According to a 2016 study by Orth et al. published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, high self esteem leads to higher levels of attractiveness and sociability. One way to boost your self esteem is by practicing self affirmations. Every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself something positive, like, I'm confident, charismatic, and people love talking to me.
Habit number six, enthusiasm. It's infectious. A 2012 study by Gable et al. showed that sharing positive experiences can improve relationships and make you more likable. For practice, share something that you're excited about with a friend or a colleague. Convey your enthusiasm genuinely and watch their reactions.
Finally, we've come to habit number seven, be present. A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology in 2013 showed that being present in the moment can significantly improve the quality of your social interactions. So, put your phone away when you're talking to someone and focus completely on the conversation at hand.
As a small activity, try having a conversation without any distractions, and that includes your smartwatch. You'll be surprised by the difference that it makes.
And there you have it, seven science backed habits to boost your charisma. Remember, practice is key to mastering these habits. And what better place to practice than our very own Community Explearning Academy. Here we host live workshops every week, giving you ample opportunities to practice and improve and reach social fluency.
Join us and take the first step towards decreasing social anxiety, boosting confidence, and achieving social fluency. You have the power to be charismatic. We're just here to help you unlock it. Thank you for watching. And as always, keep learning, keep exploring and keep Explearning.
I'll see you in the next one.
Fassaert, T., van Dulmen, S., Schellevis, F., & Bensing, J. (2012). Active listening in medical consultations: Development of the Active Listening Observation Scale (ALOS-global). Patient Education and Counseling, 89(2), 227-233. doi:10.1016/j.pec.2012.06.008
Mehrabian, A. (1972). Nonverbal Communication. Chicago: Aldine-Atherton.
Cuff, B. M. P., Brown, S. J., Taylor, L., & Howat, D. J. (2016). Empathy: A review of the concept. Emotion Review, 8(2), 144-153. doi:10.1177/1754073914558466
Heath, C., & Heath, D. (2007). Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die. New York, NY: Random House.
Orth, U., Robins, R. W., & Widaman, K. F. (2012). Life-span development of self-esteem and its effects on important life outcomes. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 102(6), 1271–1288. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0025558
Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2004). What Do You Do When Things Go Right? The Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Benefits of Sharing Positive Events. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87(2), 228–245. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-35220.127.116.11
Quoidbach, J., Mikolajczak, M., & Gross, J. J. (2015). Positive interventions: An emotion regulation perspective. Psychological Bulletin, 141(3), 655–693. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0038648